Prime Yourself for the Positive Potential in Others | by Jenny Slukynsky

Every interaction you have with another person, big or small, has the potential to leave a trace. The question is: what kind of trace will you leave?

Too often, we walk into conversations on autopilot, distracted by our own thoughts or expectations. But what if we started by priming ourselves to look for the good - the potential - in the other person? That small shift can transform relationships, workplaces, and even a simple exchange at the coffee shop.

The Power of Expectation

Psychologists call it the Pygmalion effect: what we expect of others often becomes reality. When we believe someone is capable, kind, or talented, we unconsciously act in ways that bring out those qualities. The reverse is also true.

Priming yourself for positive potential means intentionally expecting the best, even before the conversation starts. It’s not about being naïve, it’s about choosing to see opportunity instead of limits.

Practical Ways to Prime for Positive Potential

• Pause Before You Engage: Take a breath and ask: What strength or possibility might this person bring?

• Use Their Name: It signals respect and connection right away.

• Ask a Curious Question: Show you’re genuinely interested, not just waiting for your turn to talk.

• Spot the Strengths: Compliment effort, creativity, or thoughtfulness when you see it.

Why It Matters

Every interaction leaves a mark. A kind word, a patient response, or a little extra attention can shift someone’s day - or even their life. When you prime yourself to see the positive potential in others, you don’t just make them better off - you make yourself better, too.

Take Away

Before your next conversation, try this mental note: There’s something good here - I just need to notice it.